Friends or More than Friends?

Has anyone ever had the same problem that I continue to have over and over and over again?! How do you know when someone likes you or when they want to be just friends? It seems I have always got it wrong. When I think someone likes me, it usually turns out they just wanna be friends. But when I think they just wanna be friends, turns out they like me. Ugh and Oooiii! There is no reasoning behind dating sometimes.

When Mike and I started hanging out I thought he liked me, turns out, he says he didn't. But he always says he thinks I was in love with him back when we first met, and I wasn't. So maybe we were both wrong. But even when he asked me to go to dinner - on what I thought was our first date, turns out it wasn't a date! He just wanted to hang out again. But he ask only me to go where as up until that point it had always been my friends and I hanging out with him and his friends. But he didn't say you & your friends, he said, "you." So this exclusive dinner was not a date. Whatever. BUT it was around that time that he had decided he liked me and wanted to pursue the relationship!?!!? Hmmmm.... Someone really needs to clarify what a date is and what it is not so you can know how a person feels about you before you go all out on a limb for them. Actually I think that they have said a date is something that is: planned ahead, paired off, and paid for. And that is what happened at the Olive Garden that night, but Mike cliams it was not a date. STUPID. (I am a little bugged by it, can ya tell!?)

Anyways, there is this boy at work who keeps asking me to go do things with him. He wants to go swimming or bowling, at least once a week. I have said, "No... I'm busy... (with school or work or moving or out of town or family etc. etc. etc.)" probably honestly more than 50 times. I guess the fact that I keep giving an excuse keeps allowing him to ask. BUT here is the thing, I would go because I think he wants to go as just friends. So when Mike is at work, why not? Because apparently it doesn't have to be a date. At the same time Mike thinks that he likes me and wants me to tell him that I have a boyfriend... Would that be awkward for me to say, "I have a boyfriend." and make our co-worker status awkward because I would have been treating him as if he likes me and he was just asking me to hang out as a co-worker friend?

Does all this make sense? I guess I am just venting because I never know how you can tell the difference and I wish someone would just enlighten me.

Strike of Bad Luck!

Well it's been 4 months that mike and i have been dating. and 3 of those 4 months i have gotten tickets. :^( In December I was parked at his house after 1 am watching a movie and because of the whole snow plow thing here you aren't supposed to be on the road that late. So BOOM the cop gave me a ticket. In January I was driving him home at like 1 am and a cop pulled up behind us. it was dark, but apparently he could still see that my registration was expired. BOO! And just barely i was talking to mike on the phone not paying attention to what is happening around me and the cop follows me into my apartment complex and says I was going 41 in a 25. :( He said, i was following you for a while... i don't know if i believe that but anyhow... i have gotten 3 tickets while having mike on the brain. That'll teach me something right!? NO MAS!